When was the last time someone said to you that they do not want to talk to you? It doesn't happen to me very often, but it did happen the other day. It was so interesting to feel my internal response. As my good friend JarJar once said, "How Rude", jumped into my mind. I felt myself get ready for a battle shortly after. How dare someone not want to talk to me, me... Everyone should make space to talk to me. And there is was. The inner child jumping up and down having a tantrum. I didn't get what I wanted, so I'm going to throw my corporate dummies out of my organisational pram.

So where has this left me? If I'm honest, I'm not one to accept someone saying they don't want to talk to me. I don't deliver excuses at the end of a sprint. I used all my skills and experience to deliver thing that I set out to deliver. That said, delivering a excuse at the end of a sprint is not always avoidable, but it makes me sad to do so. And if I finished a sprint with a failed objected that read "Person X wouldn't talk to me", then this is a failure of my competence as a Senior Engineer.

And so, to my intention. Be aware of my behaviours. I am a full functioning adult with a mature brain, however, some edge case scenario can still catch me out and trigger some kind of childhood trauma. This can manifest in all sorts of weird and wonderful behaviours. So catch them as they rise, say hello to your inner child and let them go into the universe.

I'm Greatful for; Having many options to resolve conflict in the workplace. Play with different methods. See what works and importantly, what doesn't. People are complex, so you can experiment with different techniques. If someone doesn't want to talk to you, set a goal that by the end of the week you will have had a productive conversation with that person. Then try different techniques until you have completed your goal.

Never giving up. A conversation is coming and it's going to be amazing.